Make Your Crews Fix Their Own Interpersonal Conflicts
by Ron Roberts and Ranger Kidwell-Ross
You've got a headache on your hands because two of your best employees can't get along. What should you do?
Here's the scenario: You've got two guys in your company who are fighting. John
doesn't want to work around Mark. Mark doesn't want to
listen to John. Their behavior is running off people.
Unfortunately, they are also your most skilled workers
and you'll have trouble replacing them.
What do you do?
Well, if I'm in your shoes and I can't split them up,
I'd do everything I could to get them to see the BIG
picture. Which is:
We are all in this together!
Sit these two clowns down and tell them:
"You two are making things stressful for everybody
who works around you, for everybody in the office, and
for me personally. Sometimes even our customers notice.
The fact is, you need to work together. The other members
of your crew need you to work together. We all need
you to work together.
"You see, we're all in this together. We all sink or
swim together. When you're acting like stubborn little children, it
holds all of us back. It takes time and energy away from everyone and hurts all of our pocketbooks. It forces me to spend time keeping the crew all
functioning.
"That keeps me from hitting the streets and drumming
up new work. And, the more time I spend playing referee
with you two, the fewer hours you may get. Surely,
that's not worth the benefits you guys get from
fighting with each other.
"So we need the two of you to work your differences
out. If you need to approach me separately and
privately, great. But you two need to come together
and find a way to work together in roles where the
work gets done as we need it to. For yourself, for
the other employees and for us in the office."
After meeting with both of them together, meet with
each privately. Explore the issues from both sides.
Find out what is running through their minds, then
counteract their behavior by focusing them on
professionalism, workmanship and teamwork. Appeal
to their pride. Help them get over their pettiness.
Above all else, get them focused on group success.
It's the one theme that almost all people respond
to.
The Road to Success.
The thrill of success is very addicting. Try to
tap your employees' desire for it. Most importantly, GET THEM TO FIX
THE PROBLEM(S) THEMSELVES.
When you step in to fix the problem, instead of
helping them fix the problem, all you're doing
is creating a pattern where you're going to have
to step in every time something comes up. You're
never going to escape the micromanagement. You'll
never be completely free to do what you need to
be doing to make your business a success.
Your employees need to solve their own problems. They
need to become self-managing and mutually
accountable. The reality is most workers are drawn
to that type of work environment because they're
going to be more successful working that way.
So, your real goal is to turn them into a
self-managing crew. A crew that needs minimal
oversight. A crew that gets work done quickly,
properly and safely. That's your real goal with
your field personnel. Once your crews can take care
of themselves, you're off to the races.
That's today's message. Focus on creating teamwork
amongst your guys and don't let them put every
problem back in your lap. Coach them.
Working these interpersonal conflicts out is not
something that comes naturally to many lower level
workers. They tend to be individuals of few words
and questionable people skills. Like it or not, you need to be prepared to
cover the same ground time time after time.
Until next time, best of luck with your business!
Ron Roberts,
The Contractor's Business Coach
More information about Ron Roberts' and his company may be found on his website FilthyRichContractor.com. Ron may be reached via email sent to ron@filthyrichcontractor.com.
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